How has the onus of the toilet seat's position fallen upon men? We don't need it down to tend to our lower numbered task, therefore why should we be the one's expected to manage it willy-nilly all day long. Now think about it. Not only are we asked to put the seat down when we're done, we are also expected to lift it up before we start. I don't do that much work professionally; I'm certainly not going to take it on as an elective. If you want it up when not in use, I suggest YOU lift it up. If you need it down to do your deed, by all means, put it down. I know I do when necessary and in fact have never had my delicate cheeks kiss the icy glaze of room temperature commode water because as a civilized creature I have the wherewithal to see if I'm going to go plummeting into a sitz bath before committing to the act.

The only practical path here is that the toilet seat should always be up and comes down only when called upon. This is a win-win for all concerned. The seat stays clean, no one makes any undue assumptions and I don't get yelled at every time I visit my mother-in-law's house. Although, should you argue the above points you force my hand ... You force my hand to shake wildly instead of calmly and you force me to whiz on the seat intentionally instead of accidentally. The choice is yours to make.