if you wanted to give a dozen oranges to your neighbor as an expression of love, you obviously would need to be in possession of twelve oranges. if you intended to purchase a new automobile for you parents to show your gratitude to them for putting you through medical school, naturally you'd need to have the funds to do so. likewise, you can't give love away to others if you don't have any for yourself. you can't show respect for others if you lack self-respect. you can't give happiness away if you feel unhappy. and of course, the reverse is true.

you can only give away what you do have, and all that you're giving away each and every day are items from your own personal inventory. if you give away hatred, it's because you've stored up hatred inside of you to give away. if you give away misery, it's because you have a ready supply available from which to select and distribute.