all girls should have a rule that until the guy can properly (and completely) pleasure them through his skill, art, or alchemy, you, the girl, won't be responsible for making him reach similar heights. in short, you better get yours before he gets his. i'd go on to tell them that to veer from this rule would enroll them into a life of sexual frustration and dissatisfaction. if the fellow argues, and they will, the counter is "i know i can make you go but i'm not entirely certain you can make me go. prove me wrong and we'll dance." to his next utterance you continue, "yes, i'm aware if it takes you six months, then it takes you six months." i'd round this point out by telling the women it's their game to run. they set the tone. they call the shots.

but ladies (i'd add), you're not totally in the clear here as you too have a responsibility. your job is just as challenging as the fellas ... (dramatic pause) ... communication. it's one thing to ask a young man to travel the dim, uncertain landscape with confidence, it's another to expect him to do so without aid. as much as you think or wish young men would know what's what, i assure you, they do not. and if anyone should have had such insights it would have been me since my mother was in the business of sexual edification and diligent as always she sat me down at an appropriately early age with the drawings and pointed out all the parts and described, without any outward show of embarrassment, their uses and functions. come game day though, i found the limitation to be that the flesh and blood parts looked nothing like the line drawings done on crisp white paper by some 58 year old dude sitting in a government office in downtown kansas city. and !!! no floating labels with neat arrows pointing right at the flap, fold or nubbin in question !!! and add to the test poor lighting, fear of failure, odd smells, shaky hands, and let us not forget the poor male's blood-deprived mind. so you gotta help ladies. like, a lot. if i earned a college credit for every time i heard an instruction like "a little to the left" i would have entered university as a junior (truth told, what i usually heard went more like " a little to the left ... a little more ... uhhh ... too far, back a little ... ahhh ... there", granted the endpoint marked by 'there' always seemed to be in a different spot than it was last time. however does it keep re-locating???). if i earned a college credit every time i SHOULD have heard a little to the left, i'd have multiple doctorates and would have never set foot on a campus. and this from someone with a private tutor.